Two Utah parents are refusing to reveal the gender of their toddler-aged child because they don’t believe it’s important to tell a child’s sex to people who “don’t need to know.”
What are the details?
Parents Kyl and Brent Myer subscribe to the “gender creative” movement, which they say allows a child — and specifically their child — to choose their gender when they come to the ripe old age of 3 or 4 years old.
The growth progress of the Myers’ child, who has been named Zoomer, can be followed on the family’s Instagram page, which proudly boasts that the child is called a “theyby.”
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In a Tuesday article, the New York Post detailed the Myers’ decision to raise Zoomer in a gender-neutral way.
According to the article, which was originally published by The Sun, “Other than the immediate family, the modern parents said they: ‘Don’t disclose their sex to people who don’t need to know.’”
“Zoomer will most likely choose a gender by the time they are 3 or 4,” Kyl wrote on the family’s website, Raising Zoomer.
“We simply don’t believe that is our decision to make on their behalf,” Kyl added. “By not revealing their sex, and by treating them in a gender creative way, Z will have the freedom to explore and create their own identity, outside of the restrictions and expectations of traditional gender norms.”
In a Tuesday Instagram post, the family revealed that they’d been subjected to much questioning over their decision to raise their child in a “gender creative” manner.
The post read:
Since the “theyby” article came out in New York Magazine on April 2nd, there have been dozens of spin off articles in news outlets all across the world. Needless to say, our family has received a lot of attention. Unsurprisingly, many people do not agree with gender creative parenting, and unfortunately, many people have inaccurate ideas about what gender creative parenting means for us. Over the last two years, I have put a lot of time into writing accessible articles about how and why we parent this way on our blog (link in bio) and we invite you to read about gender creative parenting from our perspective, not a reporter’s perspective who has never met or talked with us. We created this Instagram account to serve as a resource for people who want to parent this way, and we are happy to say there are hundreds of gender creative parents all across the world. For every bully, there are so many more supporters. We are grateful for all the kind messages we have received and happy to hear that gender creative parenting is resonating for so many of you! People obviously feel entitled to comment their opposing (and often times misinformed) opinions on our account, most of which we engage with when we get around to it.
Most importantly, we love Zoomer, and we are confident in our reasons for parenting this way. We are going to ride out this media wave, knowing we’ll be old news soon. We wish everyone well and hope you’ll do the same.